change your perspective


New York | 2019

This is part three of three from this post.


Most people going through this pandemic have never experienced anything like this in their lifetime, and it is completely understandable to feel scared, sad, and anxious of the unknown. It's also okay to feel relieved to have some time off for a change, excited to be able to do things you kept postponing, and to just relax for the simple reason of "why not?"


We also have to acknowledge that most of us are incredibly privileged to even be able to stay home. Think about how many homeless people out there are at risk because they have no place to shelter in? How many refugees that share their "home" with 1,000 other people and can't afford the luxury of social distancing? Sure, you can't go to your favorite restaurant for dinner, go shopping with your friends, or enjoy happy hour with co-workers. In the grand scheme of things, these things are all just small inconveniences.


While you might have too much free time, think of the people in essential businesses that don't have the same privilege. Think about all the parents that would love to spend more time with their kids, spouses that would enjoy more 'us' time, and hard working people that just need a break. Also, remember all the times you've told yourself "if only I had more time I would get this and that done?" As long as you and your family are healthy and you have a safe place to sleep at night, there isn't really room for complaining. Take this time as an opportunity to be grateful for all you have and to change your perspective around this situation. You are not the only one going through this and there are millions more people that are in a much worse situation than you right now. Don't take your privilege for granted!


My biggest takeaway from this quarantine was that slowing down is good for you. Home cooked meals taste better than takeout food and will save you money. A walk in the park will do you more good than a walk at the mall. Most of the things you thought you couldn't live without are not essential, and you don't have to do things a certain way just because that's how other people have been doing it.


Staying home for the past two months made me put things in a new perspective. Do you really need to commute to work? Take that "short" business trip? Participate in the tenth "essential" meeting of the week? Go out to eat and drink because you had a stressful week and deserve to "treat yo self"? Buy that item you didn't need because "it was such a good price"? There are so many aspects of everyday life that when put under the light of this pandemic, completely loose their meaning.


If you can take away anything from this time at home, let it be this: most everything in life you deem essential is not. As Joshua Fields Millburn would say "The most important reason to live in the moment is nothing lasts forever. Enjoy the moment while it’s in front of you. Be present. Accept life for what it is: a finite span of time with infinite possibilities." So take this time you were given and do something with it, or not, it's up to you. Just make sure that your perspective on it is aligned with what you've been given.

© 2020 by Fernanda Kirk