'tis the season for presence, not presents



Wow, it's been a minute since my last post. I've been working towards my KonMari certification and between sessions, work, travel and moving to a new apartment, the blog was neglected in the process, but with Black Friday approaching I thought it would be a great time to jump back in!


If you had told 2012 me that she would be writing a blog post about the problems with Black Friday, she would've laughed at you. But here we are, 7 years later and I can't believe how much has changed.


Flash back to Thanksgiving 2012, it was my first time visiting the U.S. and I couldn't wait to participate in the most popular shopping day in America. I scouted online sales, clipped coupons and devised a plan to shop as many stores possible. A couple hours after eating a Thanksgiving feast (that's for another post), me and my cousins ventured out into the wild experience that was Black Friday shopping!


Black Friday is the day we trample people for things we don’t need, the day after being thankful for what we have.

We spent hours shopping, hours, and came home as the sun was starting to rise. I had spent so much money on things I thought I needed and Black Friday was just starting. Looking back I feel embarrassed and I even cringe at the thought of ever doing that again. I could've spent a lovely evening with my family, watching a movie and having a good laugh, but instead, we chose to go spend our hard earned money on things we didn't need.


But then you ask me, what is so wrong about Black Friday shopping? There are so many good sales, so I'm actually saving money! or, it's the best time to do all my Holiday shopping! No matter what your motivation is, retailers prepare months in advance for this day and they know exactly how to get you!


It’s important to understand that consumption is an unquenchable thirst. Retailers, advertisers, and manufacturers know this too well; thus, they invented a day designed to take advantage of your insatiable desire to consume.

Most of Black Friday deals are not designed for your benefit, they are designed to lure you in the store and make you buy on impulse. They are made to look appealing while creating false scarcity. If you buy something you weren't planing on buying at 20% off, you are actually spending 80% more. If you go shopping this Friday, make sure that you are buying things you actually need and not random things you're made to think you want.


For the past years, this season turned into a shopping frenzy and people forgot the true meaning of the Holidays - as if buying gifts was an ideal way to celebrate Christmas. You see so many people stressed out because of all the Holiday shopping they need to get done that the true spirit of Christmas gets lost in between the bags and credit card bills. The season is a time for presence, not presents. Try showing your love by enjoying time with friends and family, eating delicious food, laughing, donating your time, making new memories and being thankful for the things you already have!


How will you enjoy this Holiday season?


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